Name:     Shells
IP:       208.217.242.124
Subject:  Re: oh brother, here he goes again. . .(please read and respond, or
not)
Email:    ongir@hotmail.com
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You ponder about people doubting, why are they unsure? Because there are so
many damn choices.  My brother has tried to unstress his life, and in that he
doesn't make unnecessary choices.  This is most amusing when we go to eat.
When the waiter asks what he wants, he just tells him to bring whatever the
waiter would have.  Same w/ drinks, clothes, etc.  When you choose not to
choose, you don't need to be unsure that your choice was the wrong one.



Life is suffering, life is not suffering.  Life is a bunch of opposites.
"Without darkness, we would never know light"  This is not paradise; this is
Earth.



You ask why anybody would want to strive to be normal.  Well, I ask you, what
is really wrong with being normal?  Either you don't remember Jr. High that
well, or you were one of the popular people who always felt like they belonged.
Often, the opposite of normal is freak.  Being a freak isn't always fun.
Sometimes it is, but often (for me atleast) one just feels like an outsider,
desperately wanting to be normal.



Most people don't believe they are the best to control their life, because they
aren't.  By that mental assumption, they know there is something that doesn't
allow them to make the BEST decisions for themselves.  Perhaps they have
choosen the wrong path before, and they are afraid that they will do it again
and make things a million times worse.





Why does anyone dream of what he could HAVE done, or could HAVE been? Why don't
they seize the opportunities! We should be dreaming of what we can do and can
be.



Because there is ALWAYS another path you could have taken, and things would
have been very different if you took that path.  So you always could have done
this and became a big star, or you could have done this and had three kids, or
you could have done this and ended up paralized, etc. etc. etc.



Often people don't seize up "oppertunities" because they would have to drop
something to pick up that oppertunity.  i.e. I could have gone to Smith, like I
really wanted to, but in doing that I would distance myself from my
pre-established friends, my family, my boyfriend, my car, the weather I'm used
to, and my comfy, comfy bed (I love that bed soooo much).  So, I'm going to
school in my hometown where I have lived all my life.  It is the road I chose.
Sometimes it is interesting to imagine how life would have been different,
sometimes it is depressing, and sometimes  it is uplifting.



Your life is not a circle, it is not a line. It starts right now, it is behind
you yes, but in front of you, there is nothing. I suggest you put something
there, because you will never be truly happy if you let someone else do it.



Wait, if it is STARTING right now, there would be nothing behind you.  Maybe
you mean it is continuing right now.  Okay.  But then, by the mere organization
of "behind" and "in front" would imply a line either curved or straight
(depending on what part of the world you follow).  If it is just big vastness,
but still behind and in front... it is just a bigger line than you can realize.
My mind boggles at what you are trying to propose.



Blah on your head!  Nobody can do anything truly great by themselves.  You
limit the vastness to be occupied by just one thing; many, many things should
be infront of you some put there by you, some put by others.  If you are the
only one to put that something in front of you and you are truly happy,
wouldn't you eventually wonder about if you could be happier if you let someone
else put something in there.





Have we met a barrier yet? I cannot think of one.

In all of our genius, and all of our love we have yet to eliminate
miscommunication especially between the sexes.  I, the very-word-oriented
person, believe that miscommunication is the one down fall that has harmed us
the most, and will never be eradicated.



People see walls because of internal feelings.  Oprah had a very good show on
today about this.  Inner shadows that prevent people from achieving goals in
their lives.  Very good show.



"We are all paintings, and in order to make us masterpieces, we must have a
strong secure frame." -Rabbi Joesph Spielman



Shells